Incident 1:
She was jumping (literally) with joy on hearing that one of her close friends X was going to get married. She was euphoric. Her mum was quite puzzled and asked her " En ippidi kudhikara( why are you jumping?)". She told her the reason and her mum was like "Fine.. so what?" she replied " I am looking forward to attend the marriage". " Anyways you won't know many people in the marriage. You'll just eat and come" that was her mom. She gave her ' killing looks' and left.
Incident 2: The same day ...
Mom: Your cousin Y is getting married.
She: So??
Mom: What so?? For X you were soo happy and this is your cousin and are you not happy?
She: I am happy but I don't even know Y properly.
Mom: what?? All our relatives will come and you can help around and we'll have lot of work to do.
She: ???
Okay, the above conversation was my own . I want to tell you this, X is a person I speak with often and whom I know well and whose well-wisher I am, though X is not related to me in any way. Whereas Y is just a person whom I meet at family functions and marriage and hear about what's happening in Y's life from others and do not even speak often directly though a very close relative. These two conversations on the same day made me think :
1. Are marriages just a matter of helping and meeting people? Doesn't it also involve genuine happiness to the person involved? Doesn't just wishing the couple and really feeling happy by seeing the marriage complete the purpose of attending?
2. Why this partiality everywhere to your blood-relatives ? In my case as I mentioned before I know these people only via social gatherings. I don't even know the basic characteristics of my so-called brothers and sisters . And obviously I also don't know the name of the person to whom they are going to get married till I see the invitation or else I get to know " Oh, I heard that boy/girl is a doctor/prof/lawyer" again thro the air.
Now people reading this, please tell me what you feel. Am I the only WEIRDO who feels this way or have any of you experienced it?
